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Title: New-Looking for acute residential treatment for our daughter Post by: DrMomBPDDtr on January 10, 2022, 11:37:17 PM We have been in a family oriented IOP for the last 8 months with our 14 yr old Dtr who has gotten worse with a transition to high school and was completely unengaged with the program. We are now considering acute residential treatment but our educational consultant is recommending a longer term residential program (10-12 months). Does anyone with experience sending a teen to such program have advice? We are considering McLean 3East, Silver Hill, Hillside, Willow Springs. Thanks
Title: Re: New-Looking for acute residential treatment for our daughter Post by: kells76 on January 11, 2022, 11:25:19 AM Hi DrMomBPDDtr, welcome to the group. So glad you decided to reach out.
You're not alone in looking for a step up in care for a young teen with BPD behaviors. Let me start you out with a snippet from another recent thread: Excerpt There are members who have had success with getting their kids into wilderness/therapeutic boarding school situations. If you search for posts by member lbjnltx (let me know if you need a hand figuring out how to search), you can see some of her experience with her D in a therapeutic boarding school. Have you seen the "Lessons" thread yet? Here it is: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=114267.0 and if you scroll down to Lesson 6 on "Therapy methods and inpatient / outpatient venues", there is a big collection of links to threads on RTCs and programs for teens. There's also this thread; not sure if it's in the collection: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=298572.0 Check out those links and see what you think. I will add that I have heard positive things about McLean. I can't remember if that's where Dr. Blaise Aguirre practices -- you may have heard of him, he specializes in BPD in teens/adolescents -- but if not, consider reaching out to him for a consultation. Here's a link to some reviews of his book (again, you may have already seen it): https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=65571.0 ... 8 months is a long time. I'm sorry you're going through so much -- we KNOW here that there's so, so much you haven't said. If you ever need to vent, process, get support, anything, in addition to advice, we're here. It's a long road. Again, welcome; kells76 Title: Re: New-Looking for acute residential treatment for our daughter Post by: Swimmy55 on January 11, 2022, 12:31:26 PM Hi There. There is not a whole lot I can add to Kells' message other than to repeat that we are here for you , you are not alone.
The saying " It takes a village to raise a child " is a true one because sometimes they have needs we can't possibly meet in the home setting. I don't know if I have advice per se, but my son had to go to therapeutic hospital, then residential group home . I guess the first thing I'd say is with me, the guilt hit hard. I still have some residual guilt to this day. However, remember , saving a life and keeping everyone safe is priority number one. So if you can help it, remember that during the hard times. This all happened in 2009 -2012, I don't have the newest, latest information in what is the best placement. Please vent as you need to . We are here for you. Title: Re: New-Looking for acute residential treatment for our daughter Post by: CatMom22 on January 12, 2022, 02:14:52 PM Hey there!
My kid just started a short term residential with Embark in the Poconos. At first she liked it and now she hates it but I expected that. She wanted to go to residential but I think she thought it would be like camp, not school and therapy. Anyway I am following this thread because if this place doesn't work, I'm looking for a year long therapeutic boarding school for her. Title: Re: New-Looking for acute residential treatment for our daughter Post by: Guardian Aunt on January 22, 2022, 02:56:56 AM Hi, I am also looking for long term residential treatment. My kiddo is still struggling with sucidial ideation after 2 months in a local 90 day RTC.
We have had multiple PHPs prior in addition to multiple acute admissions. I can say - I wouldn't send your child to Willow Springs in NV. They have a terrible reputation and many of their patients are violent. I have had kids report being more traumatized after leaving. Title: Re: New-Looking for acute residential treatment for our daughter Post by: Momsense on January 24, 2022, 01:58:02 PM I am so sorry that you are going through this. We were in the same boat as you nearly 6 years ago with our 16-year-old daughter. We decided to take her to Clearview in Montana. She was there for a total of 13 months. It is a really hard decision to make, but I believe as parents we know when it is time to get that long-term outside help. My advice to you would be to go somewhere that has DBT. We didn't know it at the time, but now I wish we had looked for a place that offered DBT. I believe the program in Montana helped our daughter tremendously, although it wasn't perfect. Every program will have some problems. Maybe think of your top 5 priorities in a program and really stick to that when looking for a place.
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