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Title: How to respond to the email? Post by: DogMom2019 on February 27, 2022, 04:31:56 PM I KNOW what I experienced this last week of interactions... It was her trying to see where we were headed together. How we could work on getting back in a better space. I am contemplating emailing her back... But I am not sure what to say?
In her email... "I didn't mean to confuse anything or emotions. I am honestly moving forward with zero expectations from the world or the people that I meet and I rather not have that (you waiting on me) on my conscious. What I am saying is I can't give you a false hope. I hope one day you find a true love to build a life with. After our divorce, I am closing this chapter of my life. You are wonderful and intelligent, kind and caring. I truly wish you the best, you deserve it." How do I respond? Or am I holding on to someone that is clearly in the space to leave and now I am FOGing them into staying with me? Title: Re: How to respond to the email? Post by: I_Am_The_Fire on February 28, 2022, 06:52:38 PM I'm not sure if this may help or not. I struggle with this often when my ex writes something to me. When I'm faced with wondering if I should reply to an email, someone very close to me gives me this suggestion. Did they ask a question? If not, does the email really need a reply? Maybe just write down your thoughts, feelings, emotions about it separately and it may help you figure it out. Why do you feel you need to reply? What are you expectations? I'm sorry I don't have any easy answers. :hug:
Title: Re: How to respond to the email? Post by: DogMom2019 on March 01, 2022, 02:41:36 PM [...] Why do you feel you need to reply? What are you expectations? I'm sorry I don't have any easy answers. :hug: No, I_AM_The_Fire... Your reply actually made me slow down from impulsively replying and THINK about why do I need to reply, what am I hoping to gain by replying... And I think I just wanted to explain to her again that it doesn't have to be like this and that I am still here and I don't want a divorce. But these are things that she already knows, so I shouldn't devalue myself and try to convince her of the sort. Trying to tell myself that this is yet again her way of expressing what she is feeling from the separation anxiety versus the actual FACTs about life & where we are. As I am learning... There are no easy answers to this. Thank you for your response... Just when I needed it! |