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2 weeks ago today I got into an argument with my partner who im pretty sure has undiagnosed quiet-BPD. It was a fairly small argument, but the next day he came, packed up all of his belongings and I haven't seen or heard from him since. I've been completely ghosted with someone I was engaged to, and just a month ago had an amazing vacation with. It's so surreal to me. One day my entire life revolved around him and us being together. Now, it's like we hadn't even met. He was so loving, caring, and attentive when we were together. He never put me down, he never made fun of me and even when he was angry he was very careful not to say things that would upset me. I don't get it.

I understand how you feel. It is very disconcerting to those of us who are non-BPD how our loved ones emotions can fluctuate, and it's literally as if they have flipped a switch and forgotten us. It's not something healthy people can do. It's even harder because it denies you the opportunity for any closure.

I would suggest that you read the posts in these forums, learn more about BPD (my ex was quiet-BPD too), and hopefully over time accept that this was not about you at all. And that you can heal and move forward even though you were curly robbed or the opportunity for closure.

We are here for you.

So an update, but not really.
I still haven't heard a word from him. It's been 18 days now since I've heard a word from him. I sent him 2 text messages, telling him I love him and support him and that I missed him. No response. I had a really bad urge to drive to his families house, which is where he is staying but I know it won't end well. I also still have some of his stuff, which his grandma said she would come get in a few weeks but looking at it everyday really hurts.