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Title: ex/friend split on me, is it completely over? Post by: morosecupcake on April 18, 2022, 02:37:17 PM i told my friend/exbf i believe his bpd was getting worse and it made him so mad, he was full of rage toward me and told me that he has done therapy before and doesn't need anymore cause he worked so hard on himself. he told me hates me, and doesn't want me in his life at all. he told me his bpd is bad because of me because i'm a mean person to him all the time and that i have all or nothing thinking and im codependent. (which is what he was doing to me)
i was polite and held my ground and didnt yell back just told him that i want to be his friend and i care about him. he told me to act like an adult. which i was? is this it then? hes split on me before but i dont remember how long it lasted, and it wasnt as extreme as this was. should i just expect to never hear from him again? do i reach out to him? im worried about him Title: Re: ex/friend split on me, is it completely over? Post by: SinisterComplex on April 21, 2022, 08:12:20 PM Best advice...leave well enough alone. Be open to him, but do not engage in anything emotionally charged. You have to keep up your boundary. If he is going to treat you this way than he does not get access to you. You were disrespected and he needs to apologize. Now if he does not than you have to be ok with not hearing from him again and let it go. The ball is in his court.
You want to reach out, but if you do you are showing him that how you were treated is ok and that he can do it again and that you will accept the poor behavior. I know this is hard, but sometimes the best thing you can do is let go and care from a distance. It is not your responsibility to fix him, take care of him, etc. He has to do that on his own. So focus on you and let the rest play out as it will. Cheers and best wishes! -SC- |