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For starters the news has come that it will be a girl. Since reconnecting there is a new energy between us. More talk and she is being more aware of her negativity, anxiety and more respectful of boundaries as well as more respectful towards me. Not love bombing, that’s not it. It feels more normal than ever but there are the usual anxieties and worry. I honestly feel the impending break up ahead will do good for us. Her family will be there and we are preparing for what comes next. There is loyalty and my concerns about the opposite were unfounded. I was worried only because of the lack of attention towards me but I’m realizing her waves as pregnancy is imminent. Now I’m quick to approach things more jovially when she says something that’s a bit hurtful as I am realizing the words are a result of emotional immaturity though again almost immediately after if she senses I’m upset she apologizes! I’m blown away and more optimistic.
 Okay so all of this backdrop to ask this question:
 
 I am sure I am not the only one to have had this thought. I am not gonna downplay emotional abuse or behaviors that border on being such but sometimes I wonder if I’m just being too sensitive?
 I imagine some of this has to do with being more confident myself and keeping my head and emotions in tact which sometimes I let go. Our relationship is still fairly young and I feel I haven learned a lot more about the disorder and can recognize more so that it’s often not her being personal. But curiously:
 Are we nons sometimes being a bit over sensitive , or is that the result of being in this type of relationship: overprotective of our heads and hearts?

Congrats on the news!

About your question: if you keep trying to not take things personally like you say you have started doing, it could be interesting to return to this question maybe a month or two from now (when it has become more like a routine to not take things personally). The answer might be both yes and no. We can be a little too sensitive, but we have existed inside their reality and taken their words and actions literally. When we step out of their reality we notice that their words have less meaning than we thought.

I think this is what you are realising now and it is beginning to sink in.
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