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Title: Sister w BPD Post by: SBCali on May 01, 2022, 10:39:30 AM :help:
My apologies - I think I posted in the wrong category previously but hoping I did this correctly this time. My sister 51 has decided to be alone and live in a camper. At first I didn’t know where she was or if she was suicidal until I was actually able to talk to her on the phone. I’m not dismissing the idea that she may have suicidal thoughts. As we spoke (she spoke mostly), I felt the familiar BPD signs. Of all siblings I would say we have maintained a semi-smooth relationship. It hasn’t been until this last year that I finally became the target of some of her emotions. I understand she has had a life of feeling alone, misunderstood and poorly treated. I get that and I have always tried to listen to her. Admittedly, I’ve reacted poorly myself in response to her verbal attacks from time to time. But here’s my real question: I feel I’ve had our last phone call for a while. But I want her to know that I love her and I’m here for her. How? My thought was to occasionally text her a nice picture of something calming - a landscape or something. And just tell her I was thinking of her. And then leaving it at that. I want to be here when she is ready to come. How do I remind her over time that I AM HERE? I live in California and she lives in New England… Thank you for any thoughts you may have. Title: Re: Sister w BPD Post by: Riv3rW0lf on May 02, 2022, 11:59:08 AM My brother went through a very tough patch last summer. Came awfully closed to suicide... During this period, I texted him almost every day (he didn't want to talk on the phone). He told me one of those texts kept him from doing it.
Don't underestimate the power of a : "just thinking of you. I am here for you." text. The power of a thought that shows you care. Title: Re: Sister w BPD Post by: SBCali on May 06, 2022, 09:25:56 AM Thank you for your response Riv3rW0lf
You have confirmed what I have been thinking. What can I do without over burdening her. A loving text. Thank you |