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Title: "Don't leave me..." Post by: Invictus01 on May 07, 2022, 06:46:26 PM After dumping me on Wednesday and me walking away without a word, got this earlier today.
"Please don't hate me and ignore me. You need to know I care about you so much and we should talk about that too. I think there were a lot of assumptions made between the two of us and we need to talk about it" Been thinking about all this. I don't wanna be mean, I don't wanna be nice. Probably should just ignore and that's it. There will be a new dude there shortly if there isn't one already. Title: Re: "Don't leave me..." Post by: Rev on May 07, 2022, 06:59:24 PM After dumping me on Wednesday and me walking away without a word, got this earlier today. "Please don't hate me and ignore me. You need to know I care about you so much and we should talk about that too. I think there were a lot of assumptions made between the two of us and we need to talk about it" Been thinking about all this. I don't wanna be mean, I don't wanna be nice. Probably should just ignore and that's it. There will be a new dude there shortly if there isn't one already. I always responded to messages like this one with as few words as possible; no more than 6 words if possible. I got a few in the two months following her ending the marriage. Zero words seems appropriate here. Rev Title: Re: "Don't leave me..." Post by: Turkish on May 07, 2022, 09:57:41 PM It's a test to see if you really love and value her. After my one and only recycle, she texted, "if you loved someone you'd fight for them!" Uh, I thought, you dumped me. I was quickly making plans to move out and ignoring her desire to remain friends (she didn't want to lose me, but it was more than that).
Recycles take two to tango, no victims in that dynamic. I've been there, and tried years later (with two kids by then). Though hurt and angry, if you're done you're done. If not, move to the Bettering Board. The less said, the better. Give no targets. Coldly ghosting might elicit more drama, and surely that's a choice, but it might be good to put it to rest with a little words as possible. Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm. (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=134124.0) Think Spock. Efficient and logical, no mention of your emotions (which invites a conversation). Less is more. |