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Title: Paranoid? Post by: GrtLakeDiver on July 14, 2022, 05:01:17 PM Ironically, I was never paranoid all those years with her. Now that I see there were half truths and deceptions all around me and her extended family was involved, I don't know that I have any idea what the truth looks like. So I'm paranoid. Maybe rightfully so. Is this just normal? I spent a long time never knowing when she was going to blow up, living with a gun to my head even on the days she seemed to like me, so is this just that gun? Waiting for something bad to happen?
Title: Re: Paranoid? Post by: NotAHero on July 17, 2022, 08:45:42 PM Ironically, I was never paranoid all those years with her. Now that I see there were half truths and deceptions all around me and her extended family was involved, I don't know that I have any idea what the truth looks like. So I'm paranoid. Maybe rightfully so. Is this just normal? I spent a long time never knowing when she was going to blow up, living with a gun to my head even on the days she seemed to like me, so is this just that gun? Waiting for something bad to happen? Yes this is normal and will take time to heal. The first step is to completely detach from her. Title: Re: Paranoid? Post by: Turkish on July 17, 2022, 09:48:30 PM Being a target of Projective Identification, it can result in is doing that ourselves. I wrote and believed things here in the first two years that I really can't belive now how I thought that way.
Time and distance can help, and therapy, if needed, for a balanced perspective. |