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Title: How do you fake it with BPD sibling at family functions? Post by: Daisy Green on July 24, 2022, 02:58:18 PM Hello again, everyone... Thank you for being here.
I have to see my sister at my father's birthday party tomorrow night-- first time sis & I will be together since Christmas-- and my boyfriend will be there. (She tried to sabotage my dating my boyfriend last fall & that's part of my current anger towards her.) It feels so fake to show up at tomorrow's party and pretend everything's fine. I purposefully scheduled a dinner with my Dad when she'd be working but she requested off work. What makes matters worse is that after being so rude and selfish all year, she will show up tomorrow night and act super generous, magnanimous & charismatic in front of everyone else. My boyfriend sees through her act, and sometimes my Dad & his wife do, but it's so terrible for me. How do you guys get through family functions with your BPDs? Title: Re: How do you fake it with BPD sibling at family functions? Post by: Riv3rW0lf on July 24, 2022, 07:03:28 PM Hi DaisyGreen, :hi:
I wish I had some advices for you, but truth be told, I am awful in pretending and hiding how I feel. Family functions at my mother's house were always terrible and only started feeling better when I met my current husband...He is a genius in social engineering, he knows when to twist the subject to something else, he always has some kind of joke behind his sleeves and he is basically the one saving me everytime by releasing tension the second it rises. How is your humor? How is your greyrocking? How good are you at faking it under emotional stress? Since your sister, from what I remember, seems to have narcissistic traits, going the way of : making it all about her (make her talk about her work, her travel, her, her, her) to keep her attention off of you and your boyfriend maybe? How is your father with your sister? And his wife? Can they handle most of the discussions, and you be a quiet listener? Brainstorming here... Also, how triggered do you feel around her and is it worth attending diner? Could something out of your control have happened that makes it impossible for you to attend? But you are free to see your father the next day, maybe... Title: Re: How do you fake it with BPD sibling at family functions? Post by: Riv3rW0lf on July 29, 2022, 08:19:20 PM How did it go?
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