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Title: Seeking guidance Post by: Peanut16 on September 08, 2022, 02:55:51 PM Hi, I’m brand new to the site. My adult child has BPD and will not get help. How can we have a relationship that is genuine and real if he continues to rage at me?
Title: Re: Seeking guidance Post by: Couscous on September 08, 2022, 07:46:06 PM He will have no reason to seek help if he can discharge his rage onto you. It’s essentially the way he self-medicates.
All you can do is communicate to him that you are no longer going to be available to be yelled at, or blamed, and then you walk out the door or hang up the phone, and then go do something enjoyable. And then you no longer participate in the kinds of conversations that trigger his outbursts. |