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I was wondering what experience your ex BPD partners had with previous r/s? Did they ever talk about it? Did they ever give reasons why previous r/s didn't work out?

My ex just turned 31 when we first met. He never talked much about his previous r/s. He said there was a few but never worked out (I think the longest one lasted around 2 years). He said that his first gf (I think from teenage years) cheated on him. I know that there was one that didn't work out because "they were BOTH too jealous about each other" (yah, right...). The last one before me was with a girl that apparently he wanted to get rid of for a very long time even telling her he doesn't love her but she wouldn't let go.
He said he never met anybody to settle down with. Apparently I was the first one he was thinking about getting married to and having children (I don't know if this is true). His friends said that they have never seen him so in love and so into anybody like into me. Family was happy "he finally found the right woman" (this is what I have heard directly from family and friends). He never lived with anyone for so long like with me (this is very likely to be true), he never put so much into relationship and he never committed as much as with me (I can believe that).
I remember in our early days him saying that he always gives a lot from himself but people don't appreciate it. And this is what he told me after final discard too. That "I have tried so hard for you and your daughter but there was no appreciaton" so I wonder if this is his usual thing to say or he really felt this way (even tho he shouldn't really cos he witnessed me saying to our friends and family a lot about him  being so supportive and doing so much at home and for our r/s etc).


Something off topic..(just came up to my mind out of nowhere!)
He wanted me to make a tattoo on his leg. I can draw quite well but I have never done a tattoo! Obviously I refused due to lack of knowledge and lack of experience. He wanted to buy all the equipment and fake skin for me to practice.. honestly it would be cheaper to get it done by specialist.. and anyway he didn't have any financial problems so he could just pay for it and have it done properly. He was very upset when I refused and he was trying to convince me for quite some time..
I can imagine him now scratching his leg to the naked bone if I did it! LoL

She summed up her r/s to males as "10 years of rape and abuse" and then the most recent r/s which was with a female as a sexless r/s to someone who was exhibiting clear narcissistic traits. She didn't call her a narcissist but the traits were fairly classic. Vain, petty, having open contempt for everybody else. Funny though because my ex herself was always triangulating with me. Everybody was always out to get her. She even reported that her ex told her she was not pretty to her face and that she uglified herself as a result and evolved her style into a very tomboyish direction. I don't think the timeline added up because I saw old pictures of her and she had that style before her female ex.