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after reading walking on eggshells, finally have a little understanding of son
behaviour patterns..
over years outside family members all have a fault, he dislikes all, and hangs onto resons why he hates them maybe 10years ago, and puts us
nice well mannered parents in a agonising postion.
trying to use differnet methods to approach, its difficult so much to learn and
bpd is undiagnosed... :help:

Hi Flowermumrose
Welcome to the family here. I hope you will be helped by looking at the resources that are here and also by looking at the posts. I came here this morning because I had a tradesman lined up to come and do some long awaited work, but BPD dd woke up, stormed out swearing, banging doors  . . .  and naturally he left.

I am so disappointed, but this is the life I lead.

Coming here is always a help to me because it means I don't feel alone.

It is difficult to comment on your situation. On the one hand you recognise your son in the outline 'Stop Walking on Eggshells' - so at last you have a possible explanation for how your son behaves.

But there could be other explanations. You don't mention anger, verbal abuse of yourself or someone else - but perhaps this is happening.

People with major depression can hold on to feelings of being slighted, or feel as though everyone is against them - paranoid feelings if you like about the world being against them. I am just wondering if he would be open to suggesting seeing a doctor about a trial of an antidepressant? Probably not, but sometimes it can really help.

My dd tried a ssri many years ago and it made a huge difference to how quickly she 'lost it'. But the other symptoms of BPD were clearly still there and she didn't stick to it.

Let's know a bit more detail re anger and other bpd. I hope coming here is the first step in developing your own skills in dealing with what is a truly awful situation.