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Title: Seeking support Post by: Robin2727 on January 29, 2023, 03:46:45 PM Hello I want to introduce myself and say that I am a 67-year-old divorced woman who owns my own home and has a 48-year-old daughter who has been diagnosed with BPD, OCD, high anxiety, and PTSD
My daughter moved in with me 3 years ago and it has been challenging to say the least. 20 years ago my ex-boyfriend and I had an argument. He pushed me on the bed sat Indian style in front of me and shot himself in the head. That in turn caused me to have post-traumatic stress disorder. And after many years I have finally begun to move on with my life. I did not know my daughter had BPD until about 4 years ago she was diagnosed. She lost her job her relationship ended she could not financially afford to live on her own she is on total disability from it. So there was no option but to bring her here. I knew nothing about BPD, or the other symptoms that she had. My whole life is different now I feel like I am on the verge of a mental breakdown. And I am seeking for recovery for myself so that I can be better for her. My daughter does not do drugs does not drink alcohol she is a bingeater but she does the work she goes to therapy twice a week, and for that I am grateful. I just wanted to touch base with everybody and introduce myself. Thank you for your time. Title: Re: Seeking support Post by: kells76 on January 30, 2023, 10:08:07 AM Hi Robin2727, we're glad you found us -- you've been through so much in your life, and it sounds like it's really added up over time.
Living with an adult child with BPD brings many parents to the point of feeling like they're going to have a mental breakdown. So, you're not alone here. Relationships with people with personality disorders (pwPD's) are the most difficult relationships, and when it's your own child, that's a whole other layer. You mention coping with PTSD -- can I ask, do you still have a therapist or counselor? Even if not for the PTSD, just for dealing with the extreme challenges of having your D48 living with you. I hear some positives about your D48 here: My daughter does not do drugs does not drink alcohol she is a bingeater but she does the work she goes to therapy twice a week, and for that I am grateful. That's good that she isn't bringing drugs or alcohol into your home -- that can make things even more difficult with BPD in the mix. As she is on total disability, does she have anything she leaves the house for? Volunteering, appointments, groceries, etc? My first thought is finding a way for the two of you to have more space apart could be a good starting point. Reach out and update us whenever works for you, and again, welcome; kells76 |