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Title: 3yrs and growing Post by: Rottiemom on February 14, 2023, 05:52:00 PM My last post was 2020 concerning my BPD daughter, I am NC as is she. Why am I annoyed that my sibling & 2 half siblings continue a relationship w/ her? They have not been manipulated by her yet & I have just been done with all siblings & their spouses for the last 9 months. I am truely more at peace but every once in awhile I dissect & think & get pissed. Why? I’m thinking i should have a tune up with my counselor. Thoughts and any opinions are so welcomed, I feel so stupid at times with this mess!
Title: Re: 3yrs and growing Post by: kells76 on February 20, 2023, 09:53:31 AM Hey Rottiemom, just want you to know that in my own way, I can relate to your frustration at seeing people be "duped" by a pwBPD.
My H's kids' mom has many BPD type traits and behaviors, and her husband has many NPD type traits and behaviors. It turns my stomach to watch the kids think that they both walk on water, when as an adult with an adult brain, I can see them be manipulative, self-serving, dishonest, cruel, and toxic. It makes sense, too, that while most of the time you've "radically accepted" the situation, when you start thinking about it, you get p!ssed off again. I've felt that, too -- kind of like, these people have been in my life for >10 years, so why do I still get so torqued out when they do exactly what I knew they'd do? You're being really wise to view those feelings as a sign to check in with your counselor. How did that end up going? We get it here, 110%. Let us know how the last few days have been for you -- hope you've found some more of that peace you'd been enjoying *) kells76 |