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So, my pwBPD is still splitting. He has been spending a lot of time in his office. Today he had to come out for a while to do something in the living room. I tried asking him a question and he answered, but literally hid his face behind his clothing and turned away from me. He also lightly stomps his feet while I'm speaking to him. I also noticed that in other small interactions recently he will not make eye contact with me and likes to turn the other way when speaking to me or talk from a different room. It makes our interactions awkward. He never really did this much in the past, although when he's splitting he usually likes to communicate by text/email only even if we're in the same place.

 Does anyone else experience something similar with their partner? Is this common with BPD or could it be something different?

I've experienced it too. I actually never got to live with my partner although we've been together for a long time and we're now long distance, but we used to spend a lot of time at his house when we were near. And in splitting episodes he had, I remember he let me in, but went to do whatever he was doing before, even kinda talking to me but he used to look everywhere except me. And I remember talking to him from another room, it seemed he felt safer that way. I can even remember a time when I went to the room he was in to hear him better and he got mad over this. :-)

My partner does this. When she has calmed down she says it's because she's ashamed of how she's acting but can't control it. I don't know if it will help others but I know for us, after she said this, if I validate her feelings she will become more comfortable and be able to look at me and we talk through what she has just gone through.