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 I am struggling right now. My husband very recently went to a new psychiatrist and was diagnosed for the 2nd time in his life with BPD.  He is in the process of trying out new medications. I'm hoping that they work for him but after previous experiences I am so scared of what might happen every time he tries a new medication. More often than not he has more aggressive outbursts every time he starts a new medication. The most recent one he tried was supposed to help him sleep. Instead, he was up all-night last night hearing things that weren't happening. On top of that he has barely held a job since we have been together. He can't seem to get along with people and as soon as someone says something he doesn't like he either lashes out and becomes a smart Allick or he quits the job. I am struggling to financially support everyone in my household. Then he tells me yesterday that his ex-wife is threatening to take him to court for child support if he doesn't help more with his son's needs. Every bit of support being provided for his son is coming from me. I don't know what to do. He complains all the time he wants more time with his son but then while we have him all he does is complain how he can't handle him being up all night long. He is 15 months old but up every 2 hours throughout the night like a newborn. Help! It's all becoming too much.

It sounds like you are carrying a lot of burdens on your shoulders. I would guess you haven’t been married long, as your husband has a young child with his ex wife. Have you noticed a difference in your husband since you married? Was he capable of holding a job when you first got together? Should these patterns of his incapacity to support himself and his son continue, how do you see things playing out?

I haven't noticed a difference in him since we got married. He has struggled to hold a job since we have been together but he claims he had a full-time job when he was with his ex-wife, though I have a hard time believing that too. He also said he was always running off to his friends and family's houses when they would argue.