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I know no contact helps, rebuilding your life helps, grieving helps, seeing what you learned from it helps. Learning to assert yourself, set boundaries and reduce codependency helps. But, it seems unviable to just go back to every person who seriously abused me and asserting myself to them. It would feel satisfying, but a lot this is so high risk and just causes anxiety in me, because I feel like if I tell them I know exactly how they are, they will feel so threatened, and the risk to myself and my life goes up.

Sure, it's an empowering thing to stand up to abusers, it really is, but what other methods do you all use to take your power back in these situations? I feel like maybe someday I could write a book, as writing is one of my biggest passions. I can channel it into raising awareness about Narcissistic abuse, and codependency, or something on that front? I could tell my story more anonymously in said book. I could change my name, then write the book, and use fake names.

I just think it'd be dumb to go back to all these people and stand up to them, as some of them will feel their whole life is threatened, as some of them are of the more popular variety, some of them know my secrets, and even one of them could probably get me killed. It seems exhausting and like a bad idea, and I feel like maybe my ability to assert myself should be channeled more into the life I have, than standing up to them.

Although, I suppose, when I am in a stronger position, I would consider doing it, but right now, it seems like too much, and I'd rather do something, anything than doing that.