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 My 21 year old granddaughter has had BPD "forever", but now is lost in a world of delusions as well. She has been banned from her homes for about 2 weeks now and has VERY temporary housing in a shelter.

I am the only family member she currently trusts and has open contact with.
I visit and talk to her, but I cannot break through the delusions in order to be of help.
We are both DBT aware, but she can't practice them in her state of mind. My skills and our history have kept her from splitting me into the "abusive family camp".

Hospitalization has already failed.

I need help and information on DBT and delusions. It has already been over a month since she went over the top, but I believe she's been building up to it for a long time.

I'm mostly afraid that this will go on forever and all her life will be an unspeakable hell of street life. She is SO smart, but all of her time and energy is given over to surviving and maintaining her delusional world. And of course, having BPD isn't even on her radar.

I ill stop here for now, but I am as stuck as she is at the moment.

Even if the worst happens in her life, I'll still need help and consolation for myself and my exhausted broken family.
It's good to be here...

What are her delusions, and is there substance abuse?

I'm so sorry you are going through this, and I get it.

My son has built up delusions that his family has been victimizing him and believes things happened that never ever ever happened. Like he is telling people that he was beaten unconscious and we did nothing - just let him suffer. never happened. He used to have one person who was his target of blame. Now everybody is on that list - for things that are just made up. He has made up symptoms of ADHD so he could get on a stimulant, which he got, but he never had any of the symptoms. ever. This has made things worse.

It is extremely scary... you are not alone.

If you have any connection to the clinicians, you might reach out to them (copying your daughter of course so she feels included, and share your concerns. Perhaps they can help. If you have already tried that, your best shot is to keep injecting accuracy where you can. Maybe at some point she will accept the antipsychotics, which is probably what she needs.

MLA1,
Your reply does help me feel less alone, thank you. (I hope this gets to you, I'm having trouble finding my way through this site!)

The situation has progressed in the last weeks, but we are back to the same stuck places for getting her housing and mental health care.

Can you advise me on whether I should continue this thread or start a new post?
I'm now looking for others who 1)
 have tried commitment for delusions,  and 2) have gotten DBT based residential treatment for their loved one.
Maybe that's two different posts?