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Title: I'm trying to stay with him Post by: Hunybun33 on May 22, 2023, 08:09:32 PM This is very difficult for me, I have MDD and sometimes he triggers my depression. I love him and I want to make him happy it's just that he likes to Nick pick on everything I do wrong and it makes me feel like I'm breaking down. Sometimes I feel like I'm tear down. I tried to not argue with him but sometimes I feel like I need to stand My ground so he can understand my feelings and also boundaries. I need help he refuses to do therapy with me but he does talk to a psychiatrist I want to be there when he has his next appointment. How do I proceed?
Title: Re: I'm trying to stay with him Post by: kells76 on May 23, 2023, 11:28:20 AM Hi Hunybun33 and welcome to the group. You're in a difficult place, so we're glad you felt like you could share with us what's going on in your life.
Just a few questions to help us understand your situation a little better -- How long have you and your partner been together? What kinds of traits or behaviors have led you to suspect he has BPD? Or does he have an official diagnosis? Are you in therapy yourself right now? ... It sounds like the combination of your partner's behaviors plus your MDD is not a good combination -- at least, the way things have been going. The good thing about this group is that whether your partner is diagnosed or not, there are new tools and skills you can learn and try, that have the potential to "turn down the heat" in your interactions and make things more tolerable. While the new approaches sometimes aren't intuitive, and can take time, there is hope for you to change the dynamic. A good place to start here is checking out our section of articles on When a partner/spouse has Borderline Personality Disorder (https://bpdfamily.com/portfolio-4-cols). Feel free to give it a look and let us know your thoughts. Again, welcome -- you're in a good place with others who really understand what you're going through. kells76 |