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Title: My best friend with BPD won’t forgive me Post by: Braves918 on May 31, 2023, 03:08:54 PM My best friend with BPD won’t forgive me for an honest, innocent mistake. I made dinner plans with someone I wasn’t aware talked PLEASE READ (https://bpdfamily.com/safe-site.htm) about her. I should’ve known better. I should’ve known this would be her reaction. She won’t forgive me. How do I fix this. It was an honest mistake.
Title: Re: My best friend with BPD won’t forgive me Post by: kells76 on June 09, 2023, 04:12:29 PM Hi Braves918, welcome to the group :hi:
Yes, pwBPD can struggle with "all or nothing" thinking, where even an honest mistake can become "the unforgivable event". So difficult to cope with, and you're left reeling. Can I ask, does your friend have an official diagnosis? Or is this more "putting some pieces together" on your part? Occasionally giving the pwBPD space and time to self-soothe and come back to baseline can help make things less bad. Has that happened over the last few days? Fill us in whenever works best for you; kells76 |