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Trying to get a sense of this really confusing behaviour. Is it a means of control or should it be taken at face value? I’ve seen this at least 5/7 times with block, 10 silent treatment in 2 years.

They’ve blocked me maybe twice, but just for a few days while they were having one of their ghosting moods.

But number of times they’ve told me that they’re done with me, only to return back a week or two later? That’s too many to count.

Thanks for replying, yet I feel wrong for looking for a likelihood.

Seems that there is something in threatening to break up to get compliance or reassurance from some in relationships. It only made me feel more and more anxious, when combined with her assumption of my thoughts being the justification for why I was always put on the ledge of breaking up made me feel that I constantly needed to prove myself. All this as part of other anomalies that still have been confused and feeling a strength to want things to work but no reciprocation. These are gloomy times

I agree with you, my exBPD wanted to break up with me and blocked me so many times I lost count. At the beginning I panicked and did everything I could to “win” her back. I eventually realized this was just a tactic to get extra attention (also discovered she has BPD) and after a few hours she would unblock me and resume contact. However, she was resentful I didn’t chase her, that I didn’t care about her as much as before, etc. Sometimes she would ask for some space, and if I agreed, she would get upset because I didn’t insist on seeing her, therefore I no longer cared about her.

And the worst part, for me at least, was that the expectations got higher with each cycle. At first I could buy her a 1 dollar candy bar and she would hug me and say I was the best boyfriend ever. Later on, all I got was snide remarks and criticism for not buying the expensive ones.