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Title: Realization Post by: Keysmiami on August 21, 2023, 12:14:20 PM I was in a 7-year live-in relationship with a woman who exhibited many BPD traits. We have been estranged for two years and didn't quite make it through COVID. I live in NYC, so it was a different experience for us. To top that off, she was diagnosed with cancer, and we had to go through that. She is in remission; I was by her side through it all. We had a great life, but in the end, we were stressed, and she wasn't helping with bills and daily things around the house. " I just want to have fun," was her response. She left in the middle of the night for her wealthy brother's house, and we talked for two months every day until I got frustrated with her lack of commitment to her return. I sent a text calling her out, and that was it. She cut me off and blocked me from everything. I have wanted to replace the good things about our relationship with someone else to no avail. We traveled all over the world and had unique experiences. In the beginning, she wanted to move in on the third date. She took on my lifestyle and personality traits, and we were together 24/7 for seven years. Ultimately, She demonized me, and I have tried to understand it ever since. Her family is a bunch of enablers, and I have not been able to speak to anyone regarding her behavior. Just cut off. Now I think it wasn't real. I can't rationalize with her to explain anything, and she doesn't care to communicate. I am just trying to move on, and I realize it is pointless now to think the relationship was anything but a manifestation of her illness. To heal, I need to understand the behavior patterns and why they affected me so much. It's been a long, painful ride. —just wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar.
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