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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: Hope4Joy on September 12, 2023, 01:38:29 PM



Title: Vulnerable Narcissism vs BPD
Post by: Hope4Joy on September 12, 2023, 01:38:29 PM
I have been talking with my counselor for a while now about the possibility of dealing with a husband with BPD and she pointed me to vulnerable narcissism. My google research so far shows they can be similar but if the person does not have episodes outside the family it is more likely vulnerable narcissism. Can anyone confirm this? Any other differences to note? Any additional resources? I’m guessing most strategies for dealing with a BPD person would still be beneficial…
Thank you!


Title: Re: Vulnerable Narcissism vs BPD
Post by: Cat Familiar on September 13, 2023, 10:01:16 AM
This is a term I haven’t heard before. Upon googling, I found this site which explains vulnerable narcissism: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/vulnerable-narcissist/

Cluster B diagnoses share many attributes. The psychologist I saw individually some years after my husband and I attended couples counseling with her, told me that he has a personality disorder. When I asked her to specify, she demurred, stating that Cluster B personality disorders can be fluid, with varying attributes.

It made sense to me, as I had noticed he presented more like a narcissist with her, while at home, I observed the borderline traits, and occasionally the histrionic ones too.

The tools you can learn here (see the Tools section at the top of this page) will help you deal with individuals with Cluster B disorders as well as be helpful with emotionally healthy people.