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Title: Looking for support Post by: Ruby Slippers 2 on September 19, 2023, 09:18:07 AM Hi!
I’m new here! I’m 63 and I’ve been in a relationship for the better part of eight years. My partner and I recently got married. I was OK with formalizing our relationship because I felt I knew what to expect from him. However, after eight long years, the hateful BPD behavior tripled in intensity and frequency when we got married. It was a lot easier to manage when I had periods of recovery, but now I barely recover from an episode before another one occurs. In this forum, I hope to learn strategies for maintaining my mental health and sense of self throughout the vicissitudes of my partner’s BPD. Any thoughts? Title: Re: Looking for support Post by: Cat Familiar on September 19, 2023, 03:02:18 PM Welcome :hi: Sorry you’re here, but glad you’ve found us. First take a look at the Tools at the top of this page.
In the eight years you’ve been together, you certainly got a taste of BPD, but now that you’re married, you have a banquet! That’s typical, as BPD is a disorder of intimacy and now you entered into a marriage contract, the level of intimacy has increased. Before marriage, were you living together? Combining funds and incomes? I’d suggest that you continue to do things you did as a single person, having outside activities and interests. And keep your finances separate. Having good boundaries is a necessity in a BPD relationship. Meanwhile tell us more of the issues that are arising. Title: Re: Looking for support Post by: SinisterComplex on September 20, 2023, 03:37:01 PM Hi! I’m new here! I’m 63 and I’ve been in a relationship for the better part of eight years. My partner and I recently got married. I was OK with formalizing our relationship because I felt I knew what to expect from him. However, after eight long years, the hateful BPD behavior tripled in intensity and frequency when we got married. It was a lot easier to manage when I had periods of recovery, but now I barely recover from an episode before another one occurs. In this forum, I hope to learn strategies for maintaining my mental health and sense of self throughout the vicissitudes of my partner’s BPD. Any thoughts? Ruby, I welcome you to the fam as well. :hi: To make things easier for you I suggest checking out these links to help you with some resources https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=45.0 https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=36.0 In the meantime, truly please be kind to you and take care of yourself. We have your back here. Cheers and Best Wishes! -SC- |