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Title: New member reaching out Post by: Lifewideopen on January 10, 2024, 09:29:29 AM Hello I'm new here and have a fiance that has bpd and I'm looking at some new ways to help me cope
Title: Re: New member reaching out Post by: Pook075 on January 10, 2024, 12:07:57 PM Hello I'm new here and have a fiance that has bpd and I'm looking at some new ways to help me cope Hello and welcome. Could you share a little more detail with what's going on? I ask because the goal here is not to "cope" if things are going sideways. It's to strengthen communication and the relationship. Have you (or your fiancée) spoke to a therapist? Title: Re: New member reaching out Post by: SaltyDawg on January 12, 2024, 10:51:10 PM Hello I'm new here and have a fiance that has bpd and I'm looking at some new ways to help me cope LifeWideOpen, *welcome* We are here to listen and support you emotionally. "Coping" is one way to exist in a BPD relationship; however, I am going to suggest a more aggressive strategy to "manage it", otherwise it will eventually consume you. If you have accepted her BPD diagnosis, I would recommend the book "Stop Caretaking the Borderline Or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life" by Margalis Fjelstad on how to manage the relationship to a point where it does not consume all of your energy. There are many other resources, please keep coming back. I am sure you are emotionally drained, be kind to yourself and do some self-care whatever that might look like for you. Take care. SD |