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Title: Reversing a Break Up - No Contact vs. Neutral period, I see both suggested Post by: forgotmyusername53 on June 21, 2024, 12:13:21 AM Sometimes people here say after a breakup you should go no contact. They may see the mistake and fear you leaving and come back.
I also see people say another option - NOT to do a big romantic apology/pursuit but at the same time you shouldn't be completely gone to where they will forget and move on. Like just send a neutral hello or an inside joke you guys share or something once after 2 weeks or so as a bid to say hey its me... We were in a rough patch but over something small she ended it 1 month ago. First time she's done that in our 3 year r/s. Last time we spoke last week she said she doesn't care about me at all, its over. The week before she text me I love you after a long talk about how I am horrible and she's done. Title: Re: Reversing a Break Up - No Contact vs. Neutral period, I see both suggested Post by: kells76 on June 21, 2024, 09:36:58 AM Hello forgotmyusername53 and *welcome*
We were in a rough patch but over something small she ended it 1 month ago. First time she's done that in our 3 year r/s. What was the issue (even if it seemed small)? How did the "ending it" conversation go down -- text, email, in person, phone...? What did she say? Title: Re: Reversing a Break Up - No Contact vs. Neutral period, I see both suggested Post by: forgotmyusername53 on June 21, 2024, 08:05:32 PM The small thing was that she said I wasn't happy to fix her tire when everybody else wanted to give her a ride and help.
(I did change the tire, I said "let me do it in the morning, I'm at work." Next day after I came over to fix it (at 6am btw.) She said she was sick of not getting her needs met and she was done with me. I agreed and said me too. (felt unappreciated, this was another love test I get constantly) I called up to talk three weeks later to check on her. She told me about how I sucked her personality away, completely ruined her identity and would never be happy with her. Blamed me for every issue in her life non-stop. I tried to smooth things over and apologized, told her I can understand she's mad and see why, I felt frustrated with things too. By the end of it we were talking about old stories we had. She was laughing some. I hung up, she text me that she loved me. Next morning I sent flowers to her work to apologize. All day she ignored it, at night I called to see what happened and she said "Wtf are you doing. We're over for good. You think this makes you not a PLEASE READ (https://bpdfamily.com/safe-site.htm) boyfriend? etc. I apologized, said I didn't want to throw it all away, I missed her. She said she was numb and didn't want to talk to me. 1 week later she text my mom asking if my mom has heard from me. 1 day later I text her an old photo of us and said "hey how you doing?" She called up to tell me in great detail that I am a massive piece of crap, ruining her life, etc. She doesn't want to be with me. The relationship has been ruined and broken, etc. She doesn't care what I do. I said okay well I understand but I would like to be here, and if I come in very gently and slowly, no stress, could we do that? She said I have to go to bed now. That was 1 week ago. |