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Title: Why does she not lie to me Post by: Remainedbehind on June 23, 2024, 06:07:37 PM When I go out with my friend with bpd and we meet friends of her she is constantly trying to be in the spotlights with the most unbelievable stories. Strangely enough she does not behave like that anymore to me. To me she opens up, tells about her challenges, what is bothering her and so on, but no more of these complete crazy stories. Most of the time I also knew when she was lying but I let her do. When me meet people she changes her personality to that of a successful person. Then I sometimes say “ow I didn’t knew that yet” and she would reply me “I just didn’t tell you.” But she kinda tells me everything and especially these kind of issues. Do other people experienced this and what does it mean?
Title: Re: Why does she not lie to me Post by: kells76 on July 30, 2024, 01:48:34 PM Persons who struggle with BPD will, by definition, have a weak, poorly developed, or absent sense of self. Our thread on DIAGNOSIS: BPD. What is it? How can I tell? (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=63511.0) goes into that a little bit:
Excerpt The Mayo Clinic People with BPD often have an unstable sense of who they are. That is, their self-image or sense of self often rapidly changes. They typically view themselves as evil or bad, and sometimes they may feel as if they don't exist at all. This unstable self-image can lead to frequent changes in jobs, friendships, goals, values and gender identity. Relationships are usually in turmoil. People with BPD often experience a love-hate relationship with others. They may idealize someone one moment and then abruptly and dramatically shift to fury and hate over perceived slights or even misunderstandings. This is because people with the disorder have difficulty accepting gray areas — things are either black or white. For instance, in the eyes of a person with BPD, someone is either good or evil. And that same person may be good one day and evil the next. So it makes sense to me that if your friend does in fact have BPD, then she would behave differently and describe herself differently to different persons. Is that working for you, in your friendship? |