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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: ElizaCo24 on August 25, 2024, 03:22:31 PM



Title: I can't do it on my own and I'm stuck
Post by: ElizaCo24 on August 25, 2024, 03:22:31 PM
Hello,
I am a female in a relationship with a BPD male who I think has some NPD and HC (high conflict). I want to leave but it is very complicated, or at least, I am scared and I can't seem to mobilize. We are not married and have no children but we co-own a business so that is/feels like a scary situation. I cannot conduct any type of conversation about co-managing the business away from the relationship. We can barely get through conversations without conflict or tension or criticism about simple things like a lack of groceries in the fridge. I don't really know what this platform is but I was googling to see if I could identify a therapist I might be able to contact and came across this site. If anyone reads this, thank you. And if anyone responds, also a heartfelt thank you.   


Title: Re: I can't do it on my own and I'm stuck
Post by: ElizaCo24 on August 25, 2024, 03:25:28 PM
Hello,
I am a female in a relationship with a BPD male who I think has some NPD and HC (high conflict). I want to leave but it is very complicated, or at least, I am scared and I can't seem to mobilize. We are not married and have no children but we co-own a business so that is/feels like a scary situation. I cannot conduct any type of conversation about co-managing the business away from the relationship. We can barely get through conversations without conflict or tension or criticism about simple things like a lack of groceries in the fridge. I don't really know what this platform is but I was googling to see if I could identify a therapist I might be able to contact and came across this site. If anyone reads this, thank you. And if anyone responds, also a heartfelt thank you.   
P.S. I wanted to post this in the section regarding 'in a relationship I need to leave' but the thread was unavailable/archived.


Title: Re: I can't do it on my own and I'm stuck
Post by: HealthTeacher on August 29, 2024, 03:25:49 PM
Keep looking for that therapist. You got this. You may also want to contact a lawyer. Things can get really messy and when it comes to legal stuff... there's a lot to consider. There is a good book/audiobook called "splitting" and it is about divorcing a person with BPD, NPD, ASPD.... and it has a LOT of advice... and legal things to consider.

Review these boards. Read some stories. You may relate and you may find some support here. Post as often as you need. We get it.


Title: Re: I can't do it on my own and I'm stuck
Post by: SinisterComplex on August 30, 2024, 01:51:51 AM
Hello,
I am a female in a relationship with a BPD male who I think has some NPD and HC (high conflict). I want to leave but it is very complicated, or at least, I am scared and I can't seem to mobilize. We are not married and have no children but we co-own a business so that is/feels like a scary situation. I cannot conduct any type of conversation about co-managing the business away from the relationship. We can barely get through conversations without conflict or tension or criticism about simple things like a lack of groceries in the fridge. I don't really know what this platform is but I was googling to see if I could identify a therapist I might be able to contact and came across this site. If anyone reads this, thank you. And if anyone responds, also a heartfelt thank you.   

Eliza, welcome to the fam.  :hi:

Please take your time and get used to the site.

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Please be kind to you and please take care of yourself.

Cheers and Best Wishes!

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