Title: Were Doing Great Post by: supergrl4601 on October 03, 2005, 10:11:11 AM He began his new job this morning and went out the door with a skip in his step and a smile on his face. He's been on a disability pension since 1999. This is his first job in years. Still working for the same employer in the same job capacity as before, just a different location (printing company). He's been employed with this company for many years. His meetings with his probation officer are progressing nicely and so are his counselling appointments and doctor visits. He's taking his meds as scheduled and correctly and his sleep habits have improved and he's establised a daily schedule for himself. Life is wonderful and sweet. He and I have much to look forward to.
Title: Re: Were Doing Great Post by: been there on October 05, 2005, 05:56:05 PM Glad to see your H, is moving in a postive direction. Maybe the beginning of a long and hard road to getting well? Mark Title: Re: Were Doing Great Post by: supergrl4601 on October 06, 2005, 08:15:55 AM Hi and thank you. I remain hopeful.
Title: Re: Were Doing Great Post by: dncrbyn on October 11, 2005, 12:16:09 AM Glad to hear it! Yeah! It's nice to feel happy, isn't it? :D
Title: Re: Were Doing Great Post by: JoannaK on October 11, 2005, 05:59:04 PM Robyn, supergirl changed her ID to supermom... .you may want to read her update about her relationship.
Title: Seeking suggestions for supporting my children - wife with BPD Post by: ArleighBurke on August 02, 2015, 09:27:38 PM My wife has undiagnosed BPD. We live together and are seeing a BPD psych under the guise of "marriage counselling".
We have 3 kids: M12, F9, F5. The 2 girls are showing lots of signs of being unable to regulate their emotions. The older girl (8):
The younger girl (5):
These may be normal young girl traits, but it doesn't feel right. My BPD wife is quite unsupportive of the girls crying. She'll calmly tell them to stop and ask them to rationally put things in perspective. It doesn't seem very validating. I've talked to her about it and she just says that "tough love" is the way to go - cuddling/supporting them will only lengthen their crying time. I point out that wife often just wants me to hold/comfort her, what's the difference with our kids - she says validating etc is only appropriate if they had a mental issue (such as depression). It feels like any softness from me towards my girl is frowned upon by wife. It makes me uncomfortable. Any suggestions for raising my girls or dealing with their tears/emotions that will support them to be healthy? Thanks Title: Re: Seeking suggestions for supporting my children - wife with BPD Post by: an0ught on August 04, 2015, 10:02:54 AM Hi ArleighBurke,
not an easy situation. On the one hand your wife tends to invalidating behavior - possibly partly picked up from her parents. Your kids deserve better. On the other hand having an united front towards the kids is also pretty important. What I would do: - be a validating role model with wife and kids. - agree with your wife that when you do certain key validating actions she stays out - acknowledge that she may feel different but get her to accept it. - identify the battles you are willing to concede. You are in for the whole distance. last but not least: Not all validation has to come from the family. Possibly you can identify, support and encourage other validation sources from the outside that supports your older D. |