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Title: if you find yourself going through hell... keep going Post by: lostinkansas on March 09, 2010, 09:13:47 PM My ex BPD gf was sexually abused by her father for many years. (A sure way to "make" a BPD.)
Do you think they abuse their bf/husbands as a sort of surrogate punishment since they cannot always go back and punish the person that abused them? Sort of like a missplaced retaliation or revenge? Title: Re: if you find yourself going through hell... keep going Post by: Im.okay.now on March 10, 2010, 03:04:43 AM who knows for sure ? but it could be and more than likely
Title: Re: if you find yourself going through hell... keep going Post by: 2010 on March 10, 2010, 04:57:57 AM No. The disorder isn't about seeking revenge- it's about fear. But she would likely choose a mate that triggers repressed memories of feared circumstances in a repetition compulsion. www.en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Repetition_compulsion (http://www.en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Repetition_compulsion)
Title: Re: if you find yourself going through hell... keep going Post by: Tippy on March 10, 2010, 06:43:25 AM She may be projecting her anger out toward you. This is an anger which can be triggered by anything real or perceived. Its a defense mechanism to protect a deeply wounded core within. Its terribly sad for them but so damaging for us on the outside.
Title: Re: if you find yourself going through hell... keep going Post by: Manon46 on March 10, 2010, 06:54:14 AM destructive right, abused children devellop that, not sure if it is the same with sexual abuse.
Can imagine it is... |