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hi all,

it's been such a privilege to get comfort from other posters about being involved with a BPD. we are NOT the crazy one's.  :light:

this is what put me over: we're supposedly on a "break" yet, i was just sent 2 texts telling me that she's going back to "online dating" which she claimed, was the worst thing she'd ever experienced and that all that contacted her, we're crazy! we have yet to discuss an actual breakup. then again, why would we since the world revolves around her... .  

so, i've kinda lost it. since getting those 2 texts, i have NOT responded and have received 4 more,"have a good week," "have a good night," blah blah!

her facebook pic has now been changed to something i know was intentional to hurt me.

she is indeed, back to the online dating site that she claimed was,"vile."

i'm in this place of feeling, VERY used, abused, discarded, very hurt, very upset and just over it all. as to be expected... .  

i've now blocked her on fb, removed her from my database and will figure out how to block her from my phone. i am scared ~less of what might happen when she realizes, she's out of my life.

please, wish me luck... .  

and, thank you.

ps: i feel as though she'll think she "won." by me blocking her.

that she upset me so much... .  

ugh.

Good for you man. Seriously. Do it.

And who cares what she thinks. Let got of what she thinks. This isn't about her anymore. This is about you. She did not win. I promise you that. This is about you and doing what's good for you. And that is a win for you. It doesn't matter what she thinks.

Hard to say what she will FEEL, as their feelings are all over the place, but generally I think a "win" to them is if they can string you along and you continue to fill some need of theirs.  I just block my ex from everything I could.  I have a website and he might still be able to email from the contact page if he tries.

Be thorough in your blocking.  My ex sent me a particularly scathing message after several weeks of desperate ones to which I never responded.  She used an email address she hasn't used in years and sent to both my personal and work address.  She had ever used my work email. I'm pretty sure she had to go find it to even know it, but she wanted to be sure I received her "mean" message.   My therapist encouraged me to imagine every reason for and means by which she might contact me and practice ignoring her so I'd be ready. It helped.    Don't forget, even if your ex finds a way to contact you, you can IGNORE.   Delete messages without reading or listening. Trust me, it's better.   The temptation to at least read/ listen to them was nearly unbearable for me just a few days ago.  Now I have my finger on the delete button at all times.    Be strong for yourself and don't worry about how your ex is taking it.  Just sharing my experience here with what has helped me... .  

YOU already won 'if' you stay NC.

Who cares what she thinks? What about how you are supposed to feel about her being on a dating site? She does not care about your feelings so why should you care about hers.

I dont know your history with her but if you dont have kids (married etc) consider yourself lucky! I married mine and had three kids with her. How I wish I could go complete NC.

Stay Strong.!

thanks for all the very positive words. sure needed to read them.

i realize, it will take time but, currently in a silly little place of, wanting to let her friends know, i did nothing wrong and it's over. i can only imagine what she's been telling them.

i am doing all i can do to NOT care. all in due time.

staying strong!

I wish you luck brother, nothing else but luck and strong perseverance!

 

I also blocked mine on fb plus all five of his children and sister and mother... .  lol

He would always have his mother contact me , he would say " I didn't contact you"

I blocked all his phone numbers also. I'm feeling really good now

It's not me that's crazy!