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Title: "First they ignore you"... Post by: Newton on May 02, 2013, 07:59:14 AM The following quote has been attributed to Mahatma Gandhi... . after a few google searches those claims seem a little spurious... . but the words seem very relevant to those on the leaving board... . recent posts about our reactions to a pwBPDs behaviour got me thinking... .
"First they ignore you, then they fight you, then they laugh at you... . then you win". It doesn't really matter who said these words or if they are a combination of wise words by wise people... . It seems to me what is key is that regardless of anothers actions... . we have the ultimate power over our responses (if any)... . Just thought I'd share :) Title: Re: "First they ignore you"... Post by: Rocknut on May 02, 2013, 08:50:22 AM thats pretty accurate.
I noticed my relationship was going astray when my BPD ex stopped texting, calling like normal. Then days went by when he "needed space." Then as I pushed, he got angry. His anger turned to emotional abuse where he would call me names and laugh. Title: Re: "First they ignore you"... Post by: LetItBe on May 02, 2013, 09:08:45 AM Thanks for sharing that quote, Newton! It's very accurate in my experience with my ex, too.
Title: Re: "First they ignore you"... Post by: VeryFree on May 02, 2013, 09:35:44 AM All those things happened during my r/s, and are still happening after leaving.
But not in a this particular order. She will ignore me, while fighting me and (probably) laughing at me. But I realise: in the end I'm the winner. |