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Title: What I learned in Therapy... Post by: DesertChild on September 12, 2013, 12:22:17 AM Add your own as you feel the need.
I learned today two things: - I've been acting like my own male lead. (i.e. taking care of everyone else... .though I quit) - And part of boundaries is the ability to be assertive without feeling bad and also the ability to say no. (Which I got, but didn't really have in words.) And after dealing with a crapload of issues from different camps, I'm really surprised I didn't collapse before... . Working on my emotional bases and trying to find my footing. Also have to work on managing depression... .I'm not so sure about the mood highs. Title: Re: What I learned in Therapy... Post by: nolisan on September 12, 2013, 03:59:51 AM The first thing I learned in therapy (11 months ago now) was that I have been in an abusive relationship. My friends said that it was but I didn't want to believe them (denial).
When the T said so it was like waking up from a weird dream. A big learning for me was finding out about "Gaslighting". This is where she (consciously I feel) distorted my perception of reality. Ie "this was a normal r/s - I was reacting to nothing", "everything wrong was my fault", "she was my ONE", "her bragging was true", "she was the victim", etc, etc. Realizing I had been in an abusive r/s was a hard pill to swallow. I thought I was smarter than that. But I wasn't. Soo grateful that it didn't last. |