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Title: is this goodbye or am i about to be recycled Post by: samthewiss on November 04, 2013, 03:29:31 PM Got divorced on Thursday.
No contact since. I got an email from exBPDwife today saying she drove to my house and dropped off suitcase of old misc items ( things I do not need ) in my backyard. Is this closer? Am I about to recycled? I did not respond to her email. Title: Re: is this goodbye or am i about to be recycled Post by: Pretty Woman on November 04, 2013, 03:40:44 PM Sam,
I think she just dropped off items. I can see you want a recycle. If you are not in therapy please, please see someone. I just started and it has helped tremendously. You sound so desperate in your post below I can relate. I was just dumped last Weds after a bad weekend where I was stressed. She did not deal well with my stress and basically ended it... . 5th time in a year. This never gets better (recycling). You don't need it my friend. Please try to seek out someone to help. It's codependency. We are here for you. Title: Re: is this goodbye or am i about to be recycled Post by: fromheeltoheal on November 04, 2013, 03:49:07 PM I'm sorry your marriage didn't work out sam; the end of any relationship is painful.
There's not enough info in what you told us to know what her intentions are. It could be as simple as her giving you back your stuff because that's right, or there may be an agenda; you know her and we don't, obviously. But you ask if you're about to be recycled, as if you don't have any say in the matter. Getting divorced usually means the relationship is over, but what do you want? If you are finished with her and want to move on, then it's up to you to set the appropriate boundaries and set about healing. You are in control of your life. |