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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Turkish on November 26, 2013, 03:24:04 PM



Title: Are Our Relationships "Love Stories?"
Post by: Turkish on November 26, 2013, 03:24:04 PM
Near the end, mine was all wrapped up in the "teenage romance/fairy tale" type of love, as a lot of BPDs seems to be. "Oh look, S3," pointing to something on tv, "I bet they are in love!" Not healthy, not mature, though I realize a certain part of that can be fun and fulfilling in a normal relationship.

Last week, when I told her I was writing a story, she got this happy look in her eyes and said, "A love story?" I know she would read it if I wrote one. I said, "no, my life story." She said, "oh," crestfallen.

I realized the other night that she is missing the obvious: that WE are in a "love story" right now. A tragic, freaking love story that not only involves us, but also our precious son and daughter. That is real, this is real life. Now.

I will get the chance to tell her this... .and I will. Let her take even 1% of it with her as she continues her tragic, dysfunctional life elsewhere.


Title: Re: Are Our Relationships "Love Stories?"
Post by: Changingman on November 26, 2013, 04:39:00 PM
Inability to love story, god bless ya, the kids thigh THATS a love story, wright that.


Title: Re: Are Our Relationships "Love Stories?"
Post by: Turkish on November 26, 2013, 04:49:37 PM
Inability to love story,

Ha ha. I like that. Very true. I take some responsibility there, as well... .will spend a long time figuring my side out.


Title: Re: Are Our Relationships "Love Stories?"
Post by: Changingman on November 28, 2013, 09:41:31 AM
Inability to love story, god bless ya, the kids though THATS a love story, write that.

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Title: Re: Are Our Relationships "Love Stories?"
Post by: laelle on November 28, 2013, 12:02:51 PM
When I hear love songs that portray "dysfunctional" relationships as "true love"... .well it makes me want to smack someone. 


Title: Re: Are Our Relationships "Love Stories?"
Post by: santa on November 29, 2013, 12:29:46 AM
I think it's easy to misinterpret what occurred as a "love story".

In reality, we were just falling in love with ourselves because of their mirroring.