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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: BackinBlack on December 17, 2013, 11:58:43 AM



Title: Nightmare at Work
Post by: BackinBlack on December 17, 2013, 11:58:43 AM
I've always said my xuBPDbf is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gonna get.  lol

Just a quick rundown - we were together for 3 years.  We've been apart for 3 months.  I can't even tell you how many times we've recycled - says as much about me as it does him.

My problem is that we work together.  Let me tell ya, I've never regretted getting involved with someone I work with as much as I do right now. 

He was on a business trip last week, so I finally felt like I could breathe again.  He'll be back tomorrow. 

In the past, he never contacts me after a break up.  Usually, he won't even officially break up with me.  I've always just assumed it was over.  He can't even muster the courage to end it with me.   Anyway.  He always initiates things again by running into me in the hallway at work.  We work for a big company and he works on the other side of the building.  Go figure.

I've even had co-workers tell me they see him roaming the halls all the time.

I've already ran into him several times in the last 3 months (imagine my anxiety level from the minute I get to work till the minute I head home).  I never know how to respond to him.  At first, I was so angry I just ignored him.

I know you might say to just act indifferent, but I'm SO not good at that.  My face shows every.single.emotion.  I can't hide in my office all the time, although it's a thought.

It also seems I'm pulled into a project with him every time a break up happens.  In the past, having to deal with him in person, this time just via email.  Not as bad, but I'm triggered every time I get one.

How is the best way to deal with him at work?  Suggestions?