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Title: Find myself hyper-aware of other peoples moods and reactions now Post by: SeekingAdviceinCa on January 26, 2014, 12:57:54 AM Having been with my uBPDwife for 14 years I think I've developed a hyper awareness or hyper vigilance of other peoples moods or reactions. Not just her, everyone. I think I find myself more on guard and alert around everyone I'm with for their mood or reaction to things. Am I imagining this? Anyone else have this experience?
Thanks everyone. I sincerely appreciate and am thankful to you all. Title: Re: Find myself hyper-aware of other peoples moods and reactions now Post by: Ironmanrises on January 26, 2014, 12:59:08 AM Yes. Same here. Mine seems to be on overdrive.
Title: Re: Find myself hyper-aware of other peoples moods and reactions now Post by: SeekingAdviceinCa on January 26, 2014, 01:12:42 AM Yes. Same here. Mine seems to be on overdrive. Mine too! I don't know how to turn it off or get it to normal. I feel like everyone I'm around I am observing carefully to read their moods or their reaction to what I say or do. Title: Re: Find myself hyper-aware of other peoples moods and reactions now Post by: Ironmanrises on January 26, 2014, 01:19:16 AM Me neither. I mistakenly thought my close friend of having BPD(her behaviors are BPDish) and that resulted from me analyzing everyones behavior around me. Any rejection, any difference in reaction, facial/tone of voice, etc immediately lights up my warning sirens. I hate this.
Title: Re: Find myself hyper-aware of other peoples moods and reactions now Post by: UnLuckyLady on January 26, 2014, 01:30:54 AM Yes, same here. I'm even thinking about past relationships and recalling behaviors... . thinking to myself hmmm... . he might have had Npd, this one might have been Bpd... . Then my mind goes to "holy crap... . I must really attract them to me!" Would like to think my past and present is all a coincidence, not a pattern :/
Title: Re: Find myself hyper-aware of other peoples moods and reactions now Post by: Surnia on January 26, 2014, 01:44:31 AM Its exhausting - I can relate with it.
For me its something I have since childhood. Too much focus on emotions and behaviors from people near me and too less focus on myself. Its daily work to be clear about it. Title: Re: Find myself hyper-aware of other peoples moods and reactions now Post by: myself on January 26, 2014, 02:16:49 AM We can put too many walls up, too.
It keeps us frozen in the past, we need to move. How much self-preservation means you cut yourself off? |