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I read the following three sentences in “Borderline Personality Disorder for Dummies (http://www.books.google.com/books?id=KMoj8z5Q9fAC&pg=PT23&lpg=PT23&dq=%22%E2%80%9CPartners+and+friends+are+defeated+the+moment+they+enter+the+relationship%22&source=bl&ots=HwlAUDQ2dC&sig=L1JtDI1f7z6DYXJWZH10Ps2n1EE&hl=en&sa=X&ei=eh5UU4zbBcK02gWdyoHgAQ&ved=0CCkQ6AEwAA#v=onepage&q=%22%E2%80%9CPartners%20and%20friends%20are%20defeated%20the%20moment%20they%20enter%20the%20relationship%22&f=false)” and thought this sums it up nicely.  

“Partners and friends are defeated the moment they enter the relationship. Their attempts to make their friends who have BPD happy inevitably fail. The people with BPD respond to their friends' efforts with disappointment, derision or rage.  (Charles H. Elliott, Laura L. Smith (2009) “Borderline Personality Disorder for Dummies”, page 11)

Source: Full excerpt (http://www.books.google.com/books?id=KMoj8z5Q9fAC&pg=PT23&lpg=PT23&dq=%22%E2%80%9CPartners+and+friends+are+defeated+the+moment+they+enter+the+relationship%22&source=bl&ots=HwlAUDQ2dC&sig=L1JtDI1f7z6DYXJWZH10Ps2n1EE&hl=en&sa=X&ei=eh5UU4zbBcK02gWdyoHgAQ&ved=0CCkQ6AEwAA#v=onepage&q=%22%E2%80%9CPartners%20and%20friends%20are%20defeated%20the%20moment%20they%20enter%20the%20relationship%22&f=false)

Bio: www.cogtherapy.com/CharlesElliottBio.htm

Thank you for posting that definition, StayPositive. It is really helpful.

If you have heard of any other good definitions, please let me know/ add them (with the source). Brief and snappy definitions are prefered.

The Borderline Personality Disordered Person is a fractured double sided mirror whos projections we identify with.

-BlimBlam