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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: grover11 on June 23, 2014, 02:06:33 PM



Title: Have to break NC
Post by: grover11 on June 23, 2014, 02:06:33 PM
My son was just accepted into the Faculty of Education which is great news but it means I now have to talk to my wife. I need settle our financial situation. I was hoping to put it off as long as I could but she has the savings account with the money to pay for his next year of university.

I guess it's better to just get it over with, I forsee alot of anger from her but where the kids are concerned its unavoidable.


Title: Re: Have to break NC
Post by: ennie on July 03, 2014, 03:21:44 PM
How long have you been without contact? 

It sounds like you need to do this, and area ready.  What tools do you plan to use, and what medium of communication (written, verbal)?  Are you planning to have a third party present if you are dealing with financial negotiation? 

Hope the contact goes well.  Remember, you can always end it in a polite way if it is not working.  "Oh, someone just came to the door, I will have to call you back!" works for me sometimes!

Take care.   


Title: Re: Have to break NC
Post by: david on July 04, 2014, 04:23:50 PM
If you think things will go bad I would recommend communicating through email, certified letter, etc. to leave a paper trail (documentation). I only communicate with xBPDw through email. It has helped a lot with keeping things in check for our two boys.