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Title: What I say she wants to do the opposite Post by: Flora73 on August 20, 2014, 04:33:30 PM Can anyone shed some light on why my BPDgf wants to do the opposite to what I say?
When I call her on it, she will say = Its like your my parents and I want to do the opposite... . Any ideas Title: Re: What I say she wants to do the opposite Post by: Flora73 on August 20, 2014, 05:23:54 PM Could it be they often feel that your freedom is being threatened, which motivates them to regain choice and control by doing exactly the opposite?
Title: Re: What I say she wants to do the opposite Post by: maxsterling on August 20, 2014, 05:57:47 PM Sounds like she already answered your question :) pwBPD tend to exhibit the same behaviors and coping mechanisms as a child. And according to her, that is what she is doing! lol I've actually found it helps me to rationalize and have more patience with the chaos if I think of my fiancé as someone who did not learn adult coping mechanisms, and I adjust my behavior as if I was a parent.
As for specifically why she does this - well, why do teenagers do this? It may be the same reason. She may just want to express her independence from you. Title: Re: What I say she wants to do the opposite Post by: Flora73 on August 20, 2014, 06:47:38 PM Thank you maxsterling *)
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