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I have realised today that the relationship with my ex was the single most important thing that has happened to me. It has broken me in million pieces. I have suffered beyond my wildest imagination. I had two breakdowns and suffered from C-PTSD for a few months last year. This rs has also torned down the edifices I was building all these years - dreams laid on false foundations. In hindsight and I am only one month NC I can say that it has been a truly remarkable journey of discovery self and other.

I feel that I have learned in just one year what I have not found out over more than 30 years about relationships, myself and people in general. I was quite a brute before I met my ex - she certainly refined me through a baptism by fire. I know that my life has been already enriched and there's just so much material now for me work with over the years. And in some ways I am coming out a better man from it. The lord works in mysterious way. I do love her and I wish her well and peace.

I have my experience with my ex to be the most profound experience of my life as well.  More insightful than any lsd or mushroom trip. One thing I have experienced is as I work through inner core issues my ego will rise back up the surface only to sink back down into the muck to work through more core wounds.

Thanks freedom. This is something I feel as well. I'm separated after 14 years of marriage. I read somewhere that we select a spouse similar to the parent, with whom we have the most unfinished business. In other words, we missed a developmental stage in our childhood, and we marry someone with whom we are trying to learn it...

Whether I can recover and still be married to her, is a question I'm battling with