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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: guy4caligirl on November 18, 2014, 11:59:58 AM



Title: How often , does BPD females sit around in their room reorganizing clothes
Post by: guy4caligirl on November 18, 2014, 11:59:58 AM
Hey everyone I am just wondering if all of the female BPD sits around in their room with a close door , either refolding  clothes and refolding again , put them in a bag reopen the bag , go to their make up box through stuff out reorganize her 1000 lip sticks , jump to something else , forget about what she initially was doing then eat etc etc etc .and you walk in like 8 hours latter she is watching TV with a more clutter room than it was when she started .

If you have more stories in this topic please share it would help someone else see that it's a common thing they do .

The question is:

Why do they do that all the time ,and for  for what?  Are they trying to hide or deny , get occupied so they stay away from reality ?

Ps :My BPD GF loves garbage bags and toilette and hand paper always had supplies hidden for her  lol WHY ?


Title: Re: How often , does BPD females sit around in their room reorganizing clothes
Post by: BrokenFamily on November 18, 2014, 12:19:33 PM
Mine was a total slob, she didn't even fold her clothes


Title: Re: How often , does BPD females sit around in their room reorganizing clothes
Post by: maxsterling on November 18, 2014, 01:24:22 PM
Mine is constantly planning or reorganizing.  Hates clutter, and goes through her clothes to get rid of things about every 3-4 months, then complains she has no clothes, buys new, repeat cycle. 

I think she is trying to solve her disorganized brain by trying to organize her external environment.


Title: Re: How often , does BPD females sit around in their room reorganizing clothes
Post by: BrokenFamily on November 18, 2014, 01:56:53 PM
I'm pretty sure every woman complains she has no clothes |iiii


Title: Re: How often , does BPD females sit around in their room reorganizing clothes
Post by: Skip on November 18, 2014, 04:47:41 PM
guy4caligirl,

Our exes are not German Shepherds with a bred in behavior.  The longer we think this type of thing the longer it will take to heal.

If we surveyed the entire membership, I don't think we would find a statistical trend here.

In the DSM, there are a small number of statistically consistent behaviors that define people with traits - but it doesn't go beyond that.  Some say it everything tracks back to extreme rejection sensitivity and diminished executive control.

It really important as we do the postmortems to start being able to separate out general relationship issues, their issues, and our issues, and everything else.

This topic falls into everything else category.


Title: Re: How often , does BPD females sit around in their room reorganizing clothes
Post by: guy4caligirl on November 19, 2014, 10:09:47 AM
guy4caligirl,

Our exes are not German Shepherds with a bred in behavior.  The longer we think this type of thing the longer it will take to heal.

If we surveyed the entire membership, I don't think we would find a statistical trend here.

In the DSM, there are a small number of statistically consistent behaviors that define people with traits - but it doesn't go beyond that.  Some say it everything tracks back to extreme rejection sensitivity and diminished executive control.

It really important as we do the postmortems to start being able to separate out general relationship issues, their issues, and our issues, and everything else.

This topic falls into everything else category.

Well said Skip ! Detaching going forward ... some bumps but I keep going thanks to this site !