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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: pari on December 16, 2014, 08:37:23 AM



Title: Saw xBPDbf after an year
Post by: pari on December 16, 2014, 08:37:23 AM
More than an year NC. Havn't seen him in last 14 months, besides a glimpse a few months back.

This happened last week. I decided to take an taxi to work early morning. In few minutes, while looking around, I saw golden hair and felt a sense of familiarity. Realized it's exBPDbf riding with his gf. My heart didn't sink, no jealously, no fear and no hatred. I had no reaction. They were like any other passerby on the street. Our vehicles kept chasing each other for almost 5-6 kms and then we went in different directions. I have seen them together in my dream many times. May it prepared me mentally for this day. I felt quite content that I am in control of my feelings and he had no power over me.

Sharing this with the folks here to make you believe that there is HOPE. My heart goes out to all of you who are still going through the pain. Believe me, it gets better with time. Only person who can help you right now is YOU.

Big hug


Title: Re: Saw xBPDbf after an year
Post by: Deeno02 on December 16, 2014, 09:30:30 AM
More than an year NC. Havn't seen him in last 14 months, besides a glimpse a few months back.

This happened last week. I decided to take an taxi to work early morning. In few minutes, while looking around, I saw golden hair and felt a sense of familiarity. Realized it's exBPDbf riding with his gf. My heart didn't sink, no jealously, no fear and no hatred. I had no reaction. They were like any other passerby on the street. Our vehicles kept chasing each other for almost 5-6 kms and then we went in different directions. I have seen them together in my dream many times. May it prepared me mentally for this day. I felt quite content that I am in control of my feelings and he had no power over me.

Sharing this with the folks here to make you believe that there is HOPE. My heart goes out to all of you who are still going through the pain. Believe me, it gets better with time. Only person who can help you right now is YOU.

Big hug

Thank you. I needed this. Very, very sad today


Title: Re: Saw xBPDbf after an year
Post by: HappyNihilist on December 16, 2014, 09:39:58 AM
pari, congratulations! What an amazing milestone!  |iiii

And thank you so much for sharing your inspiring story with us.

I felt quite content that I am in control of my feelings and he had no power over me.

What a beautiful place to be! I'm so happy for you. 

Sharing this with the folks here to make you believe that there is HOPE. My heart goes out to all of you who are still going through the pain. Believe me, it gets better with time. Only person who can help you right now is YOU.

Thank you again for this.