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Title: BPD energy drain - it's a choice Post by: Moselle on January 20, 2015, 01:35:17 PM I've allowed this person to suck my energy away today. She won the game. It's so exhausting to have a person with BPD around, and on a conscious level I understand it's my choice to let her affect my peace and life. But on a practical level she still manages to do it.
I'm making a choice right now not to let her do it. My peace is mine. I don't give her power over that. Title: Re: BPD energy drain - it's a choice Post by: Notwendy on January 20, 2015, 01:42:06 PM It takes a strong person. Even when my H is being wonderful and nice, I am still on edge.
This requires us to be happy in the face of any mood. Title: Re: BPD energy drain - it's a choice Post by: AnnaK on January 20, 2015, 02:12:55 PM Yeah. I am clinging to my father's attitude: "Emotions is such an entertainment. Safety, health and well-being of every person must come first. If you need to suffer from emotions - find a comfortable safe place, choose a good timing when emotions do not interfere with serious issues, then take your time and suffer. "
It's a great attitude, when dealing with someone with emotional regulation issues. Like with any "entertainment", if you have energy, time and desire for a little "emotional entertainment" - get involved. If not - step out. After all, you would not ride the real roller-coaster or do water-skiing if you are down with fever, or if you are having an important business meeting. |