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Title: Am I living with an undiagnosed BPD wife ? Post by: dadecounty on February 14, 2015, 08:57:15 PM I think I may have joined the dots, After many years of frequent arguments over petty stuff , the disproportionate responses with emotional and physical abuse, the silent treatment for days, the lack of intimacy for almost 4 years, the relentless discussions of "abandonment" ,Being told I was a dead beat dad to my son , Forgetting the fabulous overseas vacation because "my behavior tainted the memory of the vacation" ,Being told that I was going to be outed on social media as an abuser, and I can go on and on .
After being told by my wife that I need therapy and that I have BPD , I happily went to psych to get help for my depression and seek a BPD diagnosis bcos I want my marriage to work and was told that I definitely dont have BPD , but he thinks my wife has. Then I found this forum and wow, I feel like a giant cloud has been lifted? But where too from here. How can i get my wife to understand. Is there any hope for us. Please help me to move to the next level. What are the best reference books to help me . I appreciate all help here. Thanks Title: Re: Am I living with an undiagnosed BPD wife ? Post by: flowerpath on February 14, 2015, 09:47:15 PM Hi, dade. *welcome*
You've found a very good place to start. If you've lived a person with BPD for a while, it's actually pretty easy to wonder whether you are actually the one who has BPD. Two of the most important things I've done are to learn as much as I can about BPD and learn how to protect myself from it. The lessons on this page -->, step-by-step, are very helpful and the recommended books are too. Sharing with the other members here will help you know that you are not in it by yourself. Title: Re: Am I living with an undiagnosed BPD wife ? Post by: dadecounty on February 15, 2015, 12:35:45 AM Thank you for the advice
Title: Re: Am I living with an undiagnosed BPD wife ? Post by: rlhmm on February 15, 2015, 01:12:49 AM i just joined this site myself... .be an informational sponge... .read all you can about BPD, it will become obvious whether your spouse is or isnt... .good luck! :)
Title: Re: Am I living with an undiagnosed BPD wife ? Post by: Cole on February 15, 2015, 06:10:53 AM I am in pretty much the same boat. Agree 100% with flowerpath; read all the information you can on this site. Don't be afraid to continue counseling in your own if you need to. Living with a BPDw can be debilitating.
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