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Title: Dark circles under his eyes
Post by: Hostage1234 on May 05, 2015, 05:28:29 AM
I've noticed my 4year old son has dark circles under his eyes and is sick so much after spending a lot of time with his grandmom and mom anybody else know about the dark circles


Title: Re: Dark circles under his eyes
Post by: going places on May 05, 2015, 07:47:33 AM
Check for mold exposure.

Black mold can kill you


Title: Re: Dark circles under his eyes
Post by: Nope on May 05, 2015, 08:42:53 AM
Not enough good sleep is what it sounds like to me.


Title: Re: Dark circles under his eyes
Post by: GaGrl on May 05, 2015, 08:46:02 AM
Absolutely -- either sleep problems or allergies to something in that environment.


Title: Re: Dark circles under his eyes
Post by: Panda39 on May 05, 2015, 02:26:41 PM
I'm in the lack of sleep camp, based on my SO's uBPDxw's behaviors.  She had to sleep with the kids, kept them up to late watching TV,  and (no impulse control) would wake them up to talk.

In your case there could be arguments between mom and grandmom (probably likely when someone has BPD) that might be waking up or keeping up your son.

You might want to arrange for a check up with his Pediatrician following a visit to moms.


Title: Re: Dark circles under his eyes
Post by: bravhart1 on May 05, 2015, 04:06:27 PM
Could be any number of things, anemia, sleep, vitamin deficiency etc. best to check in with pediatrician.


Title: Re: Dark circles under his eyes
Post by: eeks on May 05, 2015, 07:39:55 PM
Look into the sleep issue for sure, but I wanted to add that I have dark circles (purple/blue colour, I have pale skin) under my eyes no matter how much sleep I get, it's from allergies.  

It could be environmental or maybe they are feeding him something that he doesn't get at home, that he reacts to.



Title: Re: Dark circles under his eyes
Post by: whirlpoollife on May 06, 2015, 07:20:05 AM
I would say sleep deprived.  Xh enjoyed the power of it.   Also, if we slept that meant we were doing something for ourselves and weren't payng attention to him.

But a pediatrician visit could help pinpoint it,  some of the darkness can be hereditary.



Title: Re: Dark circles under his eyes
Post by: ennie on May 09, 2015, 08:23:52 AM
SD 11 sleeps with her mom, and describes her mom talking and talking to her at night when she is upset, and her saying, "Mommy, can we just go to sleep now?"

She comes home with dark circles, too; we focus on getting enough rest, eating a healthy, balanced diet, resting and recovering for the first days after transition.



Title: Re: Dark circles under his eyes
Post by: ennie on May 09, 2015, 08:25:37 AM
Mold and allergies have other symptoms, too . Does your child have other symptoms?  Runny nose, watery eyes, coughing or sneezing, rashes, intestinal distress, etc?


Title: Re: Dark circles under his eyes
Post by: Hostage1234 on May 09, 2015, 04:15:05 PM
We'll he gets a rash around his mouth.noticed to when he spends a long weekend he comes back sick.lasy week I drop him off at BPD grandmom you would think he was a cat and I was about to dunk him in water clawing to me .grandmom looked at me in shock even know I've been telling them he's been upset at there house.they always say he's happy there wow I hate to lee what sad looks like cause happy looks like scared to death