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Title: Help Post by: LucyR on May 23, 2015, 11:07:11 PM I've been with my partner for 3 years
I do love him but I can't take any more of the rollercoaster I'm on He loves me then hates me Worships me then loathes me Caresses me then hurts me Cares about me then discards me Wants to marry me then breaks up with me Worries about me then doesn't care Controls me Manipulates me I want out but love him Title: Re: Help Post by: hellosun on May 24, 2015, 01:58:49 AM Welcome here, LucyR. I'm glad you found these boards.
Do either you or your partner see a therapist currently? When you say "hurts me" do you mean that your partner physically abuses you? These erratic changes in his behaviours towards you sounds pretty severe. I'm so sorry someone you love so much is putting you through that. =/ Title: Re: Help Post by: Stalwart on May 24, 2015, 11:45:44 AM Glad you're here Lucy.
You're in a place were a lot of people can relate to what you're saying and how you feel. I'd dare say most us have developed a case of coasterphobia. Funny how people do that eh? Have such exaggerated looks on their faces as they plummet down and round the bends to just get off at the stop station and run around again and get in line to take another ride. :) "I do love him" Hey that's motivation for a lot to stay, but are there other reasons that you do? Title: Re: Help Post by: vortex of confusion on May 24, 2015, 12:38:03 PM I want to join Stalward and hellosun in welcoming you to the forums. One of the places that you might start as you think about your decision to stay is to delve into the lessons that you can find down the right side. A lot of people here have felt a lot of the same things that you are feeling. Do some reading to help you understand your partner's behavior as well as your own. As the lessons say, before you can make anything better, you have to figure out how to stop making things worse. Is there something specific that you would like more information about? |