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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: SES on May 27, 2015, 10:15:16 AM



Title: Should have seen it coming
Post by: SES on May 27, 2015, 10:15:16 AM
Well... .almost at a point of tying up our house sale legally, and also had 50-50 shared care of our children agreed between lawyers, and 50% of finances/equity agreed between lawyers.  So... .all good and moving in the right direction.  The end is getting closer.

Well, she recently "split up" with her affair partner, who cheated on her with at least 6 other women.  She seemed to settle down a lot after this, and became more friendly... .eventually asking for reconciliation. 

Well, I didn't say no... .and I didn't say yes... .a bit cautious about how to play that, and I preferred things calmer.   

Well, she had an almighty eruption last night... .  she is angry that I realised she is lying to me... .and that she is probably in touch with her affair partner, and probably still seeing him.  It isn't a great surprise to me, and I don't feel particularly bothered by it.  I do have concerns that he might form part of our children's lives, as he uses drugs.  She, on the other seems livid.  She threw loads of abuse and threats at me. Again threatening to take me to court.  Threats about the Police.  Telling me that I'm old, ugly, fat and grey (I accept old and grey!).  Again telling me what a wonderful life she will have.  How attractive she is and how easy it will be to find an attractive younger man.  On and on she went... .even this morning.  Followed by texts telling me that its my loss!  I won't miss the cheating and lying! 

Well, its not entirely unexpected.  Its is certainly a push, after the recent pull.  It now just seems so immature.  Its weird, we had a few weeks of things being more settled... .then back to her unpredictable ways.   Anyway... .I'm just being bland, and ignoring her.  I'm out tonight... .so I can avoid her.  I'll go out tomorrow.  I think she is away at the weekend.  It'll be a few days of avoiding her.

I don't expect a repsonse.  Just letting off a little steam.