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She Just cant say anything good about me.

She would rather breakup than talk about the state of our relationship

although in her eyes, everything is fine and dandy.

I see her show caring for other people, and she loves me but... .

Im treated different (worse) than the rest of the world.

Is this common and why do they do this or is it just mine?  Does it have to do with the discard phase or more of not wanting to talk about feelings, which does run a bit shallow for her.

Hey,

I feel for what you are thinking right now

I dated my BPD ex for 2.5 years. There were times that were amazing. I believe (from reading and hearing stories) that many people in a relationship with a BPD partner can relate. But then there are the times like what you describe. Those thoughts went through my mind so often that they became second nature. The fact that you still voice those questions is good. It shows that you are aware of something not being right.

It's not right to feel that way. I wish I could tell you otherwise, but from what I know of BPD those negative experiences and associated questions/feelings do not go away. They never did for me, after 2.5 years.

This is my first post. I read through other threads but I wanted to reply here, since I think it's important to recognize the strength it takes to question as you do. It is now six months since I broke up (I did it). If you decide to face the hurt, you can do it too. It is possible.

Thanks Bro,

She Just txt me and I noticed that I feel worse now,  I was feeling good reading some good stuff and now crap.

  I keep asking her in different ways, "should I be waiting for you?"  because she is under to much stress as a waitress to talk about silly stuff like us. She gets madder and further away every time we talk.