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Title: Husband Just Diagnosed With BPD Post by: hopeful2015 on September 25, 2015, 02:56:10 PM Hello,
I am also new to this forum. My husband has BPD. We just learnt and I have been reading up on it and how to cope (stop walking on eggshells) but I am faced wit this struggle of not wanting to go through this pain and yet not leaving him at this bad phase in his life. Hoping to see how everybody else with similar dilemma make their decisions. This is HARD, hoping to learn a thing or two in coping with the stress. Title: Re: Husband Just Diagnosed With BPD Post by: ColdEthyl on September 25, 2015, 04:26:02 PM Hello and welcome!
I'm sorry you have found yourself in this situation. I'm sure his behaviors have been hurtful, bizarre, frustrating and stressful. But, you are not alone. We all have family member or spouses wBPD, and while you can never take the BPD away... .there IS hope :) The very very first thing to do if you haven't already done so is check out the lessons on this forum. The biggest thing in my opinion is learning to effectively communicate. If we can do that... .a whole lot of the behaviors reduce significantly. Is he in therapy now? Are you? Where do you want to go with this relationship? Are you feeling about it? Title: Re: Husband Just Diagnosed With BPD Post by: hopeful2015 on September 25, 2015, 07:59:02 PM Thanks coldethyl. If I was selfish I would just end this but it's hard to do when you care.
I will explore the site more and think more about the questions you have asked. Title: Re: Husband Just Diagnosed With BPD Post by: babyducks on September 26, 2015, 07:23:04 AM *welcome*
Hi hopeful2015, You have come to a website full of resources and members that are here to support and encourage you. We understand the situation you find yourself in. We have been in your shoes. ColdEthyl mentioned the Lessons, the links to them are in the box to the right. >> >> >> While my relationship has gone through some difficult times. I have to say the skills and tools I learned here has taken much of the stress out of my relationship. What I can understand I can either change or react to appropriately. I look forward to seeing you around the forums. 'ducks Title: Re: Husband Just Diagnosed With BPD Post by: bananas2 on September 26, 2015, 09:29:57 AM Welcome, Hopeful2015!
I just joined here a few days ago myself with the exact same situation as you - recently diagnosed husband with BPD. I've known a lot about the disorder for a long time since I worked in Mental Health and had many BPD clients, but being in a relationship with a BPD person is VERY different. Hopefully we can help each other find our way. |